I know that limerence can be misleading. It can be the beginning of a good relationship, or a complete disaster. If someone feels like the answer to the question of your life, you might want to address the fundamental sense of lack that they are triggering.

Loving sharpens the self and taste

People often talk about crushes as aspirational mirrors. Often, they reflect the qualities we long to cultivate in ourselves - confidence, charisma, creativity, spiritual clarity. When we fall for someone, we’re drawn to the version of ourselves that wakes up in their light as much as we are drawn to them as... See more

Crushes can be more about projection than attraction.

Hallstrom-Conkright emphasizes that we often project a series of valued attributes onto an individual and then attach strong positive feelings to the image we created. Projections can be complicated and irrational, and the feelings resulting from these projections can be quite dramatic. She adds... See more