crushes are often just misplaced ambition
Crushes can be more about projection than attraction.
Hallstrom-Conkright emphasizes that we often project a series of valued attributes onto an individual and then attach strong positive feelings to the image we created. Projections can be complicated and irrational, and the feelings resulting from these projections can be quite dramatic. She adds ... See more
Hallstrom-Conkright emphasizes that we often project a series of valued attributes onto an individual and then attach strong positive feelings to the image we created. Projections can be complicated and irrational, and the feelings resulting from these projections can be quite dramatic. She adds ... See more
Liana Lozada • Here's What Your Crush Really Says About You
It often happens that you have a good friend of the opposite sex with whom you share common commitments. You trust this person’s wisdom and you find you can open up and share many intimate things without fear. He or she understands you well and listens to you and gives you great advice. But the person doesn’t attract you romantically. Maybe he or s
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I know that limerence can be misleading. It can be the beginning of a good relationship, or a complete disaster. If someone feels like the answer to the question of your life, you might want to address the fundamental sense of lack that they are triggering.
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
