But it can take years to let go enough to feel that freedom. We hang on fiercely, mistaking the attempt to control all the variables in our lives for vigilance in our recovery.

Our neurotic ego thrives on entitlement to full control. Letting go of ego therefore includes letting go of control. We can use this version of our 4A approach: 1. We admit we are being or trying to be controlling. 2. We allow ourselves to feel the tension and discomfort that naturally arises when we let things take their own course, when we allow