Constructive Living (Kolowalu Books (Paperback))

That’s the ultimate goal of Constructive Living—to help you do everything well, with full attention.

We change only by changing the now. That is all we have to work with. What I do now is me and molds who I will become tomorrow. Make no mistake, there is no other time. The whole rests on what I do now.

Action—in the present—changes the future. A trip of ten thousand miles starts out with one step, not with a fantasy about travel.

The major limitation of active expressive therapies in the West—the ones that attempt to get the patient to relive childhood traumas, to act out childhood impulses and desires—is that it is not “me-then” who is birth-screaming or shouting rage at my father or drinking unlimited malts. It is “me-now.” And the “me-now” can’t see or feel or think as t

Feelings can be indirectly influenced by behavior

The more skill you develop in doing everything well, the more satisfaction and confidence you bring to your life. Whether you are reading, or carrying on a conversation, or making love, or playing tennis, or giving that speech in front of a group, you can be creating who you are and who you will become by doing the activity well, with full attentio

Feelings must be recognized and accepted as they are.

The mature human being goes about doing what needs to be done regardless of whether that person feels great or terrible.

second: Every feeling, however unpleasant, has its uses.