Complaints
Practice the “dream behind the complaint” technique: When you catch yourself complaining, use it as an opportunity to uncover what you truly desire. Every complaint implies a vision of a better scenario. After identifying the dream behind the complaint, assess its inspiring nature. Is it compelling enough to motivate you? If not, dig deeper to unco
... See moreCan we patiently and reasonably put our disappointments into words that, more or less, enable others to see our point? Or do we internalize pain, act it out symbolically or discharge it with counterproductive rage? When other people upset us, do we feel we have the right to communicate or must we slam doors and fall silent? When the desired respons... See more
Alain de Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education: An Emotional Education
