Try to notice when you were triggered during the day. Let your mind trace the event that triggered you back to its origin. Why did you get so triggered? What emotions and thoughts came up during the event? Are they similar to thoughts and feelings you have had before? Where do these thoughts and feelings come from? How does getting triggered in

While Hoffman doesn’t use the term “good point,” his search for self energy is a very similar process to that described by the Breslov masters.

In IFS, asserting self energy is the way to be our most grounded, centered selves.

Just like the sun is always shining behind the clouds, the reality of connection is always there, even when it is obscured by temporary feelings of emotional pain.

According to an experienced organizer, the more a decision maker can feel like a negotiated solution expresses his or her own values and desires, the more likely it will be that the solution is implemented well.7

This process brings the inner dynamic to the level of consciousness, thus making it less likely to undermine my longer-term goals. In this step of sensitivity, we are just noticing the dynamics, not actually making changes. Cultivating

Hiddenness was the big idea that spoke to me the most. Olam is the Hebrew word for “the universe.” This word comes from the three-letter Hebrew root ayin.lamed.mem. (O.L.M.), meaning “hidden.” Jewish spirituality is founded on the understanding that beyond the material world that we perceive with our five senses is hidden a completely different

The power of good points is that they remind us of our own essential goodness. Through this we get a deeper sense of connectivity among ourselves, others, and God, which produces a deep feeling of joy. From a Jewish mystical perspective, our goodness is our essential self, which is the manifestation of the divine within us.

being able to mobilize our power of decision to stop a behavior can be literally life-saving. The danger of kibbush is that it can crush the yetzer, which is our source of passion and creativity. Kibbush is a blunt instrument. While we need it and must develop it, kibbush is not the ultimate goal of Mussar practice.