Burnout: The secret to solving the stress cycle

What are the benefits of continuing? What are the benefits of stopping? What are the costs of continuing? What are the costs of stopping?

A third caveat: Science is often expensive, and who pays for it can influence the outcome and whether or not the results are published.

The problem is the world has turned “wellness” into yet another goal everyone “should” strive for, but only people with time and money and nannies and yachts

Nor is it about not feeling frustrated by the persistent gap between what is and what could or should be.

“positive reappraisal.”2 Positive reappraisal involves recognizing that sitting in traffic is worth it. It means deciding that the effort, the discomfort, the frustration, the unanticipated obstacles, and even the repeated failure have value—not just because they are steps toward a worthwhile goal, but because you reframe difficulties as opportunit

When you redefine winning, you set goals that are achievements in themselves—and success is its own reward.

Soon: Your goal should be achievable without requiring patience. Certain: Your goal should be within your control. Positive: It should be something that feels good, not just something that avoids suffering. Concrete: Measurable. You can ask Andrew, “Are you filled with joy?” and he can say yes or no. Specific: Not general, like “fill people with jo

Novices who are thoroughly incompetent rate themselves as very confident in their ability to do a thing they’ve just learned to do. By contrast, genuine experts know how difficult their work is, so they are realistic about their competence and thus rate their confidence in their own abilities as moderate, even as their performance is, of course, ex

and so we’re trapped in our own longing.