If I could go anywhere right now and do anything that I wanted, where would I go? How would I spend my days if I didn’t have to worry about anyone watching and judging me? Which important values that I hold dear have I been neglecting? Who do I miss spending time with? What possibilities feel forbidden yet exciting to me? What do I really like? Wha

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We’re made so uneasy by the experience of allowing reality to unfold at its own speed that when we’re faced with a problem, it feels better to race toward a resolution—any resolution, really, so long as we can tell ourselves we’re “dealing with” the situation, thereby maintaining the feeling of being in control. So we snap at our partners, rather t... See more