o how do you reprogram a nervous system trained to trust the devil it knows?

You stop asking “how do I trust again?” That’s the wrong question. You’re already trusting. Just the wrong patterns, the wrong people, the wrong cycles.

The better question is: what am I trusting them with ?

You don’t need blanket trust. You need targeted trust . Functional... See more

There are three kinds I use to filter every relationship in my life now. No exceptions. No sentimentality. Just signal over noise.

1. Can I trust you with my

thoughts

?

Can I think out loud around you without punishment? Can we disagree without collapse? Can I be curious without you feeling threatened?

If I say something true to me and your first... See more

let’s talk about patterns.

Because trust isn’t about love, loyalty, or how someone makes you feel in the moment. It’s about what they do. Consistently. Predictably. Especially when it’s inconvenient.

Trust is pattern recognition.

Not sexy. Not sentimental. But clean. And if your perception has been used against you, clean is sacred.

If you’ve been betrayed—chronically, catastrophically, subtly over time—you don’t just lose people. You lose your perception. You lose your ability to read reality.

That’s the injury. Not the heartbreak. The perceptual distortion that follows.

And no, trust is not about feeling safe. Safety is a feeling. Trust is a system.

Here’s the truth no one tells you. Betrayal isn’t just interpersonal. It’s neurological.

It corrupts your internal compass. It warps your signal detection. And if you want to heal, you don’t need vague affirmations. You need precision tools.

These three questions are my tools now. And no one gets access to my inner life unless the answer to all... See more