Communities are built, person by person, through thoughtful design and authentic, energetic connection points.

All communities and relationships evolve and change. When you sense it happening, rather than thinking, ‘This isn’t what it used to be,’ consider this: It’s never supposed to be what ‘it used to be’! Everything evolves, including communities and relationships, and it’s a beautiful thing! Let’s learn to embrace that!”

Let’s Talk About Comparison, Perfectionism, and Judgment

new friends to see if anyone wanted to hang out, for fear of rejection. And I know now that I’m not alone in feeling these things. Being a thinking, feeling human is challenging—especially in the digital age!

Building a community where we feel a deep sense of belonging requires a real and honest understanding of ourselves first.

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But then I learned about the “Blue Zones,” the communities that live the longest—Okinawans in Japan, Sardinians in Italy, Costa Ricans, and Seventh-Day Adventists.

This exercise was instrumental in helping me see patterns in the choices I made. It also provided me with the clarity to recognize that it’s always been up to me to choose which road to take and who to spend my time with—and that I get to keep doing that.

All of us were born into and grew up in various communities—our families, neighborhoods, schools, clubs, friends, religious groups, cities, our larger nation, and indeed the entire human race and perhaps even all sentient beings. We truly are tribal animals, and we can only fully flourish within communities where we truly belong. Despite