Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life

To be human is to belong. We were literally born in community, attached to someone else.

Ultimately, my goal is to give you the blueprint to build and nurture your own community from scratch so that you find happiness, fulfillment, and success.

Your Soul Sisters (or Soul Brothers or Soul Family) are Inspiration, Gratitude, and Curiosity. They sit two tables down from the Mean Girls. You’ll always have to walk past the Mean Girls’ table—and

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Questions to ask yourself one by one AFTER you’ve plotted your life path: 1. Whom did you look up to? 2. Whom did you depend on? 3. Who kept you safe emotionally or physically? Who didn’t? 4. Who worried about you when you were feeling stressed? 5. Whom did you take for granted?

Another study found that having weak social ties is as harmful to our health as being an alcoholic and twice as harmful as obesity. Sit with that for a second: Having poor social connections is as bad as being an alcoholic and twice as bad as being obese.

separates. Judgment disapproves. Perfectionism nitpicks. They are often responsible for our anxiety. They condition us to judge everything we think and do. They whisper to us . . .

This exercise was instrumental in helping me see patterns in the choices I made. It also provided me with the clarity to recognize that it’s always been up to me to choose which road to take and who to spend my time with—and that I get to keep doing that.

Plot Your History. Use this page to list all the cities you’ve lived in, the schools you’ve attended, the jobs you’ve had, the relationships you’ve been in, even the smaller life moments that only you remember. Add musical artists and albums that changed your life, movies that you’ve seen ten times, books you’ve reread. Include people who have had

For the first time in my adult life, I was going to be intentional about my people.