Beautiful letter from W.E.B. DuBois to his daughter Yolande

Trish Thomas

Principal & Lead Strategist at Akamai Strategy, Founder of Lark Builders

March 12, 2016

I just had the privilege of discovering this beautiful letter from a father to a daughter as she stepped into the great unknown. Yolande was the daughter of W.E.B. DuBois and went abroad to a prestigious boarding school in England as a young teen. DuBois was the first African-American to earn a degree from Harvard and knew well what awaited Yolande (remember that women still couldn't vote and the Civil Rights movement was decades away... what prejudice she faced!). But his thoughtful words extolling the virtues of embracing discomfort and newness and self must have made the journey so much brighter. Enjoy!

46-year-old Du Bois to 14-year-old Yolande on October 29, 1914:

Dear Little Daughter:

I have waited for you to get well settled before writing. By this time I hope some of the strangeness has worn off and that my little girl is working hard and regularly.

Of course, everything is new and unusual. You miss the newness and smartness of America. Gradually, however, you are going to sense the beauty of the old world: its calm and eternity and you will grow to love it.

Above all remember, dear, that you have a great opportunity. You are in one of the world’s best schools, in one of the world’s greatest modern empires. Millions of boys and girls all over this world would give almost anything they possess to be where you are. You are there by no desert or merit of yours, but only by lucky chance.

Deserve it, then. Study, do your work. Be honest, frank and fearless and get some grasp of the real values of life. You will meet, of course, curious little annoyances. People will wonder at your dear brown and the sweet crinkley hair. But that simply is of no importance and will soon be forgotten. Remember that most folk laugh at anything unusual, whether it is beautiful, fine or not. You, however, must not laugh at yourself. You must know that brown is as pretty as white or prettier and crinkley hair as straight even though it is harder to comb. The main thing is the YOU beneath the clothes and skin — the ability to do, the will to conquer, the determination to understand and know this great, wonderful, curious world. Don’t shrink from new experiences and custom. Take the cold bath bravely. Enter into the spirit of your big bed-room. Enjoy what is and not pine for what is not. Read some good, heavy, serious books just for discipline: Take yourself in hand and master yourself. Make yourself do unpleasant things, so as to gain the upper hand of your soul.

Above all remember: your father loves you and believes in you and expects you to be a wonderful woman.

I shall write each week and expect a weekly letter from you.

Lovingly yours,

Papa