What’s the key to relating to others? It’s putting yourself in someone else’s place instead of putting them in their place.

People need to be encouraged. Eugene Lang believed in these kids and it made all the difference in how they lived the rest of their lives. The article goes on to show Lang’s impact: Lang’s students speak confidently of becoming architects, computer experts, entrepreneurs of all types.

Seizing this golden opportunity, I said, “Elizabeth, if you want people to act right toward you, you act right toward them. And many times you’ll change them.”

Charismatic people have the ability to show concern for people’s deepest needs and interests. That doesn’t mean charismatic people are mushy or patronizing, but when you are around them, you sense their interest and care and leave them feeling that you are important.

He gave me a simple definition, one that makes “charisma” easy to grasp: Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are in making them feel good about you. In other words, don’t try to sell other people on you, try to sell them on themselves.

Put simply, charismatic people are helpers. They are out to see others profit; they have the gift of grace.

The best way to become a person that others are drawn to is to develop qualities that we are attracted to in others.

In life, you are either going to see people as your adversaries or as your assets.

“Dream of what you want to be, the kind of life you wish to build. And believe in that dream. Be prepared to work for it. Always remember, each dream is important because it is your dream, it is your future. And it is worth working for.”