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Baby Girl
But other adopted people seldom ask me about whether I’ve tried to find my birth parents, and when they do, they’re never surprised when I say I haven’t. Why try to find someone who did not want you in their life?
Rob Henderson • Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class
After her arrest, my mother was deported to South Korea. I never saw her again. It’s funny, many nonadopted people have asked me if I’ve tried to find her, and when I say I haven’t, they often react with surprise. But other adopted people seldom ask me about whether I’ve tried to find my birth parents, and when they do, they’re never surprised when
... See moreRob Henderson • Troubled: A Memoir of Foster Care, Family, and Social Class
Thirty-five years ago, I would have had no chance to have children with a biological link to their father; Penelope and Justin would not exist. How can I long for that world? Thirty-five years ago, people I loved made disastrous decisions that made perfect sense within the context of the world they knew, the moment in which they had to act. They we
... See moreLaura Lippman • Wilde Lake
What Is Said What Is Meant You’re not my real mother! You can’t tell me what to do! Are you going to keep me? Are you really my parents? I hate you! I wish you had never adopted me! Do I really belong in this family? I want to find my birth mother and move in with her. I need to know more about my birth family. I have questions that are not being a
... See moreBetsy Keefer Smalley • Wounded Children, Healing Homes: How Traumatized Children Impact Adoptive and Foster Families
Martha’s not my child, I’d say, as if I was joking, as if my feelings weren’t hurt. I would say: She’s my roommate. Now I can say, she was not my child, but she was the first member of my family. Martha was my best friend and my witness. I had been on my own for so long, swimming upstream, and now I had a partner in it. There’s a bright line betwee... See more