that taking time to cultivate friendship sustains life beyond the job.

When we’re about to cross into a new task, distressing emotions can arise. We feel ashamed that we haven’t already finished what we’re just beginning. Or we’re embarrassed to have done only a fraction of what we’d expected. Or we’re leaving familiar territory and have to figure out what’s next.

First, establish an overall time limit. For example, you might have twenty minutes before a meeting. Instead of working on a minor task that fits into the time available, you begin a major task, say a report that will take hours to complete (and that you certainly would’ve procrastinated on). Contain the time by setting a timer. Don’t, however, set

those little tasks that do fit never end! Changing this pattern helps us get to the heart of things and do what’s important.

We need a balance of awareness and action

The teacher recommended limiting my reach to as far as my least able limb could go.

our feeling bad really doesn’t help other people around the world feel any better.

The three-phase close-down is a means to make graceful transitions between tasks.

Many people are just fine at catching ideas, but they let them lie—wherever.