You don't need to transform every difficult emotion into joy. You don't need to maintain perpetual positivity. You don't need to perform enlightenment for other people's comfort.

It means recognizing that your system has its own intelligence about what frequency serves you in any given moment. Sometimes you need the fire of anger to create change. Sometimes you need the water of sadness to process loss. Sometimes you need the earth of fear to keep you safe.

When someone tells you to "raise your vibration" in response to legitimate pain, grief, or anger, they're not helping you heal. They're asking you to perform happiness for their comfort.