In sum, Manny was a “chip off the old block” during the S-M scenes and thus preserved a connection with his father.

Some people fantasize about their partner wearing a blindfold.

How is it that a woman can get sexually aroused by the fantasy or reality of being slowly asphyxiated, or a man by wearing panties, or a woman by being led around by a leash? How can someone imagine or enact a situation of being urinated or defecated on and be sexually excited and not repulsed? What could it possibly be about being diapered or havi

Otto was a prime example of survivor guilt. He unconsciously believed that he wasn’t supposed to have a better life than his parents.

Ruthlessness means objectifying the other. Identification means seeing oneself in the other.

Neither woman is actually overpowered.

Finally, a person might develop a sexual fantasy or preference involving a heavy woman because, since our culture values thinness, a heavy woman is imagined to feel lucky to have any partner and won’t be dissatisfied or critical.

For every fantasy in which one person is aroused by being degraded, hurt, or made helpless, there is someone in a complementary role doing the degrading, hurting, or dominating.

Transference becomes a problem when an unconsciously perceived similarity between our sexual partners and our parents leads us to exaggerate and distort certain moods and traits in our partners because they resemble problematic moods and traits in our parents.