Are You Dealing With a Narcissist or Just an Asshole?
Are You a Jerk, or a Liar?
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The so-called ‘HR-ification’ of interpersonal relations – an appropriate term, given the particularly capitalist bent of its aetiology – involves Insta-therapists encouraging the use of social scripts full of meaningless jargon, such as the much maligned template above, to ‘protect your peace’ and ‘assert your boundaries’ against those aforemention... See more
how did you realise you were a bad person?
Since a narcissist has no boundaries and could not care less about your boundaries, all interactions you have with them have the potential of becoming hideous.
Rokelle Lerner • The Object of My Affection Is in My Reflection: Coping with Narcissists
Experts will tell you these are the hallmarks of narcissism. First, it’s selfish to create incredibly intense feelings only to drop someone at the first sign of human imperfections—in other words, just when the connection starts to shift from fantasy romance to real commitment. Second, it’s objectifying. The narcissist (or at least the person behav
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Need of constant attention and admiration, and no matter how much they receive it never seems to be enough ● Focus on superficial things (e.g. appearance, possessions, social status, etc.) ● Expectation of special treatment, even when it’s not deserved ● Using manipulation and lying to get what they want, even if it means exploiting or taking advan
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