Are You a Settler?

In times of political and environmental crisis, this mindset often takes the form of the belief that nothing is truly worth doing with your time except addressing such emergencies head-on, round the clock – and that you’re entirely correct to think of yourself as guilty and selfish for spending it on anything else. This quest to justify your existe

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Often, there’s a desire to cling onto how we thought life should go, sometimes until it outweighs the reality of how it is going — what makes us happy, versus what we feel should; what is truly stimulating or fulfilling, versus what we’ve been told should be chased and sacrificed for. A question I ponder is: How do we untether ourselves from the pe... See more

If I could go anywhere right now and do anything that I wanted, where would I go? How would I spend my days if I didn’t have to worry about anyone watching and judging me? Which important values that I hold dear have I been neglecting? Who do I miss spending time with? What possibilities feel forbidden yet exciting to me? What do I really like? Wha

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In some corners of the Internet there’s a fascination with traditionalism, and criticism of the ways the openness and optionality of modernity have left people feeling lost. I’ve always felt like, look, I could never be a traditionalist, because I don’t want to give birth to five kids without anesthesia and spend half of my day cleaning up around t... See more