Anger: Buddhist Wisdom for Cooling the Flames

Your anger is like that—it needs to be cooked. In the beginning it is raw. You cannot eat raw potatoes. Your anger is very difficult to enjoy, but if you know how to take care of it, to cook it, then the negative energy of your anger will become the positive energy of understanding and compassion.

Non-violence can be born only from the insight of non-duality, of inter-being. This is the insight that everything is interconnected and nothing can exist by itself alone.

It needs only one conscious breath to be back in contact with yourself and everything around you, and three conscious breaths to maintain the contact.

If you are capable of removing the wrong perception, peace and happiness will be restored in you, and you will be able to love the other person again.

You need to sustain your mindfulness for a certain amount of time in order for the flower of anger to open herself.

We hold our baby of anger in mindfulness so that we get relief. We continue the practice of mindful breathing and mindful walking, as a lullaby for our anger.

Embrace your anger with a lot of tenderness. Your anger is not your enemy, your anger is your baby. It’s like your stomach or your lungs. Every time you have some trouble in your lungs or your stomach, you don’t think of throwing them away. The same is true with your anger. You accept your anger because you know you can take care of it; you can tra

You will say and do mean and cruel things when you believe that you are the only one who suffers and that the other person does not suffer at all.

So promise each other that every time you get angry, you will not say or do anything out of anger. Instead, you will take care of your anger by going back to yourselves—practicing mindful breathing and mindful walking.