Anger: Buddhist Wisdom for Cooling the Flames

You won’t regard anyone as an enemy when you have penetrated the reality of inter-being.

In old times, servants of kings and queens always had to have a mirror, because whenever anyone was presented to the emperor, they had to be perfect in their appearance. So for the sake of formal etiquette, people would carry a pouch with a small mirror inside. Try it. Carry a mirror with you and look at it to see what state you are in. After you h

From time to time, we stop chewing and get in touch with the friends, family, or sangha—community of practitioners—around us. We appreciate that it is wonderful to be sitting here chewing like this, not worrying about anything. When we eat mindfully, we are not eating or chewing our anger, our anxiety, or our projects. We are chewing the food, prep

Mindfulness contains the energy of concentration, understanding, and compassion.

Smiling allows the energy of mindfulness to be born in you, helping you to embrace your anger.

You need to sustain your mindfulness for a certain amount of time in order for the flower of anger to open herself.

If you know this, then when it rains you won’t be desperate. You know that the rain is there, but the sunshine is still there somewhere. Soon the rain will stop, and the sun will shine again. Have hope.

You will say and do mean and cruel things when you believe that you are the only one who suffers and that the other person does not suffer at all.

One hour of watering the flower in the other person can make him or her begin to bloom. It is not so difficult to do.

This is the habit energy in us. When we suffer, we always blame the other person for having made us suffer. We do not realize that anger is, first of all, our business.