I constantly run these experiments to try to free myself from stuckness. I’m always coming up with a different plan of attack, and most of the time it’s sort of a harebrained plan that ends up not working, and I just keep going until one of my plans works. And I think over time I have gotten faster at understanding whether I truly feel an affinity... See more

The idea that affinity can free you is simple. But people have complicated relationships with knowing what they actually like. Yesterday at dinner J used a metaphor for having the wrong job that went, Sometimes people think they should play basketball because they like dribbling . Which I interpret as, It’s very easy to think something is right for... See more

Whenever a friend is trying to make a decision, I generally try to ask something to the effect of , Do you really like this? ( This being the person or the relationship or the job or the city or just generally the life they’re living.) And the thing I find striking is that people find this question amazingly difficult. They usually say something to... See more

I guess my motto is that in the beginning you might not know why you have an affinity for something, but you should run after it anyway.