Whenever a friend is trying to make a decision, I generally try to ask something to the effect of , Do you really like this? ( This being the person or the relationship or the job or the city or just generally the life they’re living.) And the thing I find striking is that people find this question amazingly difficult. They usually say something to... See more

The idea that affinity can free you is simple. But people have complicated relationships with knowing what they actually like. Yesterday at dinner J used a metaphor for having the wrong job that went, Sometimes people think they should play basketball because they like dribbling . Which I interpret as, It’s very easy to think something is right for... See more

I constantly run these experiments to try to free myself from stuckness. I’m always coming up with a different plan of attack, and most of the time it’s sort of a harebrained plan that ends up not working, and I just keep going until one of my plans works. And I think over time I have gotten faster at understanding whether I truly feel an affinity... See more

I guess my motto is that in the beginning you might not know why you have an affinity for something, but you should run after it anyway.