Common passengers that people bring up are: > ‘I don’t feel like training today.’ > ‘I will fail.’ / ‘I am a failure.’ > ‘I’m not good enough.’ > ‘No one likes me.’ > ‘I look stupid.’ > ‘People will laugh at me.’ or ‘People are laughing at me.’ > ‘Something terrible will happen.’ > ‘It’s no use trying.’

Openness incorporates acceptance and defusion.

This involves contact with the present moment, what is happening around us right now, the physical reality outside the skin, in addition to what is going on in our body; and what might be best-called defusion from our self-concept.

This happens as we naturally tend to focus on more immediate demands and goals rather than what led us to set those goals in the first place. What we refer to as values, are those aspects of life

People literally aren’t aware of what is in front of them ‘in the moment’ when their attention is narrowed and focused inward on their thinking.

What we are defusing from in this exercise is expectation, and the negative effects of having those expectations thwarted. We are defusing from the thoughts, emotional reactions, and behavioural responses to those reactions that can form a filter between us and what needs to be done. That is, attachments and reactions that impede our performance.

The training itself becomes a satisfying practice of discipline and focus.

are hunting – the game you are playing.

If family is a value, how can you relate that to your team? If family or friends are an important value, how would that be demonstrated in your behaviour in the team?