we take the bad experiences from the bunch and project them onto God. We expect God to handle us as poorly as others—with silence, disappointment, shame, explosive anger, or trying to fix things with trite Band-Aids when we have a gaping wound.

3. How do you think God describes you right now?

Spiritual discipline is not something that helps our future selves be more loved by God; rather, it is something that helps our future selves be more surrendered to Him.

A few foundational historical disciplines are Bible-reading, prayer, evangelism, sabbath, fasting, and generosity.

What happens to the human heart (Christian or not) when we think expecting the worst is better than hoping for the good?

disciplining your attention is nonnegotiable.

Discussion Questions 1. What limits in your life are especially frustrating for you? Why do you think these are the ones that rise to the top of the list for you? 2. What is wisdom? How do you get it? 3. In what ways do you deny your limitedness and seek to press beyond it? How does that normally go? When tempted in this way, how might you fight ba

four affirmations that help him focus his attention on what matters most: There is no place I would rather be. There is nothing I would rather do. There is no one I would rather be with. This I will remember well.

What have I left undone before the Lord and others?