A Long Talk: conversation between Eloghosa Osunde & Joshua Segun-Lean.

Understood this way, then, the ongoing relationship with the gone is a lavishment to other loves, for it has made us exactly who we are — the person doing the loving, the person being loved, the mapmaker of present and possible worlds. O’Connor offers neural affirmation for this poetic aspiration:

Modern relationships are cauldrons of contradictory longings: safety and excitement, grounding and transcendence, the comfort of love and the heat of passion. We want it all, and we want it with one person. Reconciling the domestic and the erotic is a delicate balancing act that we achieve intermittently at best. It requires knowing your partner wh... See more

There’s a real tension in love — at the beginning of love, particularly — between the desire to be honest about who one is and the desire to win the affection of another person. Of course, ideally, we can both be honest and loved for being honest. That’s the dream.

The very thing that distinguishes us both is that I wouldn’t hesitate to choose you in every lifetime. But you wouldn’t even choose me in this one. And although I gave you my flesh and bones, I know I cannot love you into loving me. So there you are, overflowing with my love, and here I am pleading for a droplet of yours or whatever I could salvage... See more

Love is a motion,

it is an approval of the authentic self
a bridge to cross
a monster to behead

a beast in the wild
for going through love, is not a walk in the park

it is deadly and not for the weak and faint.

But on the other side,
once you’ve battled through, lies euphoric beauty.
and your true authentic self
For how much you are willing to know yoursel

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