A lazy form of grief - Jessie Ngaio
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A lazy form of grief - Jessie Ngaio
When you suffer a great loss, you may rightly seek redress. However, justice, which is rooted in love, compassion, and harmony, is not the same thing as revenge, which is rooted in anger, hatred, and ill will. When you are possessed by thoughts of revenge, you have become the very mind state that you deplored in your aggressor. It can lead to
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Stoics on parsing difficult emotions
“It’s better to conquer grief than to deceive it.” —SENECA, ON CONSOLATION TO HELVI
We’ve all lost people we were close to—a friend, a colleague, a parent, a grandparent. While we were suffering from our grief, some well-meaning person did their best to take our mind off it or make us think about something else
... See more“Grieving the loss of good things isn’t pathological. It’s human—something that happens to social animals with a deep natural desire to love and be loved. If anything is pathological, it’s pretending we’re not animals of this sort—that we’re somehow better off not loving than loving and losing the good things we love. Stoic practice encour- ages
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