What’s something you love to do? Do you have a favorite place? Is there a book or movie you’ve read or seen more than once? What is occupying your thoughts most at the moment? What’s something you wish you knew more about? What’s the best meal you’ve ever had?

Discretionary spending: My focus is saving for the future / I spend it when I’ve got it Vacations: I enjoy extravagant trips / I travel on a budget Home, clothing, car: I keep it simple / I like the finer things Purchases: I buy things spontaneously / My purchases are carefully contemplated SOCIAL INTERACTION Friends: I like spending time with lots

Conversation: I like to discuss all kinds of topics in detail / I’m a person of few

higher rates of well-being were associated more with people who had deep conversations than those who made more small talk.

very feelings prevent us from finding love. Researchers at the University of Toronto found through a series of studies that when we’re afraid of being single, we’re more likely to settle for less satisfying relationships.

people were less likely to develop creative skills like playing an instrument or writing because the most effective practice of these abilities is often done while alone. Like those talented teenagers, when we avoid solitude, we struggle to develop our skills.

This question reveals our insecurity, our fear, our anxiety around loneliness, and these

define the deepest love as when you like someone’s personality, respect their values, and help them toward their goals in a long-term, committed relationship.

In productive arguments, we mutually agree on ways we’re both going to change our behavior going forward. Both partners are happy with the resolution.