8 Rules of Love: The Sunday Times bestsellling guide on how to find lasting love and enjoy healthy relationships, from the author of Think Like A Monk

define the deepest love as when you like someone’s personality, respect their values, and help them toward their goals in a long-term, committed relationship.

If you could meet anyone, who would it be? Is there a single moment or experience that changed your life? Is there someone you consider to be your greatest teacher?

Conversation: I like to discuss all kinds of topics in detail / I’m a person of few

Planning: I keep a calendar and stick to my plans / I don’t like to be locked into commitments HABITS Organization: I keep everything tidy, bills paid / I wish I were more organized than I am Exercise: I like to be active or do it for health / I find it hard to motivate Food: I eat healthily, or do as best I can / Life is short—I eat what tastes go

Perhaps the most important lesson solitude offers is helping us understand our own imperfection. This prepares us to love someone else, in all their beauty and imperfection.

very feelings prevent us from finding love. Researchers at the University of Toronto found through a series of studies that when we’re afraid of being single, we’re more likely to settle for less satisfying relationships.

In productive arguments, we mutually agree on ways we’re both going to change our behavior going forward. Both partners are happy with the resolution.

if you think your partner should do what you want when you want, I want to change how you look at your partner. That’s not a relationship, that’s ownership. Ownership is born of control. We definitely don’t want that dynamic with our partner. A good partnership is transactional.

Social media: I like documenting my life for my friends / Social media is not my thing; I like to be in the here and now Weekends/Travel: I want to see the world / When I have free time, I just want or need to relax Date night: I like to stay home and cook / I love a night out on the town TV: I watch something every night / I curate my shows carefu