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For example, if you’re aware that fear is prominent in you right now, you can remind yourself that the future is likely going to be easier than it currently seems, regardless of how strongly you might feel your impending doom. If you’re aware that anger is prominent, you can remind yourself that when you feel this way you tend to be highly critical... See more
David Cain • A Basic Skill We Should Have Learned as Kids
Anger can be deadly, but frustration is your friend.
#1. Frustration points to aspiration.
Negative energy transforms to positive action when you ask, “What do I really want?”
In the beginning, frustration tells you what you don’t want and don’t like. Use negative energy to clarify positive aspiration to serve others.
#2. Frustration says it’s time to
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Can we patiently and reasonably put our disappointments into words that, more or less, enable others to see our point? Or do we internalize pain, act it out symbolically or discharge it with counterproductive rage? When other people upset us, do we feel we have the right to communicate or must we slam doors and fall silent? When the desired respons... See more
Alain de Botton • The School of Life: An Emotional Education: An Emotional Education
not get angry, stubborn, and imperious. Get curious.