We can choose to stay on the path we are on and feel superior because we have a slight bit of self-knowledge, but if we don’t admit that we’re ready to grow beyond our defects of character then we’ll be doomed to repeat them time after time.

Part of what’s necessary to overcome our past is a belief that we can be happy and that we are worthy of happiness.

What’s a “defect of character?” Here are a few to get you thinking: Using denial to not address a problem, fear of being on your own due to abandonment issues, expressing anger to stunt yourself emotionally, lying to yourself that “everything is fine,” stuffing your emotions down and replacing openness with emotional eating, or trying to save

What’s a “defect of character?” Here are a few to get you thinking: Using denial to not address a problem, fear of being on your own due to abandonment issues, expressing anger to stunt yourself emotionally, lying to yourself that “everything is fine,” stuffing your emotions down and replacing openness with emotional eating, or trying to save

When we are willing to let go of who we were, and to embark on a new path, that’s when we begin to change.

When I realized that I needed to first take care of myself and stop using relationships to complete me, things changed in my life.

We are responsible for our own healing. We have to choose to take care of ourselves.

I forgive myself. I release the guilt, the shame, and the incessant fretting and worry that I spent in the past, trying so desperately to fill the sick abandonment needs that felt like a hole in my heart.

When we are willing to let go of who we were, and to embark on a new path, that’s when we begin to change.