We can choose to stay on the path we are on and feel superior because we have a slight bit of self-knowledge, but if we don’t admit that we’re ready to grow beyond our defects of character then we’ll be doomed to repeat them time after time.

From there, we can learn how to heal from our past and integrate new (and healthier) ways of dealing with our problems.

For me, no romantic relationship was going to fix the problems I had in feeling abandoned by my father. I needed to find out why I felt that way, how to overcome it, and then learn new skills to put into practice.

Don’t rock the boat, do what was asked of you, and then I could go on my merry way.

let’s be thankful that we have the power to control who and what we want to do in life.

We do not need the acceptance of others to feel worthy. We do not need others to know that we are loved.

We are responsible for our own healing. We have to choose to take care of ourselves.

The moment we stop looking for a parent or a proxy relationship to fulfill us, the sooner we realize that being comfortable with ourselves is the way forward.

Part of what’s necessary to overcome our past is a belief that we can be happy and that we are worthy of happiness.