We are responsible for our own healing. We have to choose to take care of ourselves.

I forgive myself. I release the guilt, the shame, and the incessant fretting and worry that I spent in the past, trying so desperately to fill the sick abandonment needs that felt like a hole in my heart.

No matter how much I tried to go back and fix the past by recreating similar relationships in the present, nothing could heal the pain that I had lived through.

From there, we can learn how to heal from our past and integrate new (and healthier) ways of dealing with our problems.

When I realized that I needed to first take care of myself and stop using relationships to complete me, things changed in my life.

We are responsible for our own healing. We have to choose to take care of ourselves.

we need to do the work to get us to a better place.

We do not need the acceptance of others to feel worthy. We do not need others to know that we are loved.

The more we try to deny or run from our problems, the more they’ll catch up with us when we’re in a time of crisis.