I know that kids love absurd questions. If you’re trying to connect with a kid, ask them an adult question like “What kind of car do you drive” or “What do you do for work?” They will crack up and the more you continue the bit, the more they will loosen up with you.

I know to embrace magazines: Read them at the nail salon, put them out for overnight guests, buy a few before a long flight. Magazines are candy bars for the brain: indulgent and satisfying.

I know that finding time to read won’t happen as long as you have your phone handy. a book wherever you go. For unexpected wait times, it beats scrolling around your phone (and you can feel superior to those who do so ;)

I know that “I don’t know” is a full sentence.

I know how valuable long-term friends are. If you’re lucky enough to have friends of over a decade, carve out intentional time to ask them about all the years they lived before you blasted onto the scene. I recently did this with my dear friend while we were on a hiking trip: What was Peace Corps like? Tell me about your extended family? What did... See more

I know the cuisines that offer the most for all! If you don’t know what to do for dinner, ask the other person (whether your sibling or a complete rando), “Mexican or Thai?”

I know anticipation can soften despair. Always have something on the calendar that you’re looking forward to.

I have been at many an event without a plus-one and intimately know the pain of entering a ballroom full of new faces. If you’re at an event where you don’t know anyone, stand in the longest line you can find: for the bar, buffet, bathroom. Strike up a conversation and you’ll be set for the evening!

I know that curiosity is a cure-all for social anxiety. If you’re nervous on a date, ask more questions than you answer.