It is as though her willingness to simply be herself inspires me to notice the places in which I am not doing that. Her unapologetic expression of who she is and what she likes becomes a portal for my own awareness about where I am holding tension where I don’t need to be, where I am assuming I need to be someone the world wants me to be, or else be misunderstood, lost, alone.
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Who I Want To Be: I want to show up in life in such a way that you feel greeted in my presence. Welcomed. Worthy. Accepted. That means when I see you I start with love. It means I refuse to wait until my ego can determine your value to me. Forgive me for my impulse to judge, I want to unlearn that behavior. The truth is that you are human—my sister
... See more“Being able to say ‘this is who I am’ when everything else feels uncertain, flimsy, prone to dissolution, may be the greatest comfort we have. Is anything more seductive, more empowering?/ To be alive is to subject oneself to the reality of being permeable/ so, while I welcome the pleasure of those moments when I feel like myself, I don’t think I w
... See moreWhat makes self-love powerful is that it is not just a way of seeing ourselves, but a series of actions that continuously align us with a greater vision of who we are growing into.
The more present we are, the more we relax into ourselves, the stronger a magnet we become for what aligns with us. That’s the paradox of the self: it is most potent when we are least focused on it.