How did you….

What’s it like….

Tell me about…

Where did you grow up?

That’s a lovely name. How’d your parents choose it?

What is the best way to grow old?

• "What crossroads are you at?" At any moment, most of us are in the middle of some transition. The question helps people focus on theirs.

• "What would you do if you weren't afraid?" Most people know tha

"Tell me about a time you adapted to change." "What's working really well in your life?"

"What are you most self-confident about?"

"Which of your five senses is strongest?"

"Have you ever been solitary without feeling lonely?" or

"What has become clearer to you as you have aged?"

Look for extreme talent. Ask to “take me back” and get people in a narrative.

Listen for specific things they love or are good at. Like “I love writing out lesson plans”. Learned what they’re wired to do.

asked me about three topics: my ultimate goals (What do you want to offer the world?), my skills (What are you doing when you feel most alive?), and my schedule (How exactly do you fill your days?). These were questions that lifted me out of the daily intricacies of my schedule and forced me to look at the big picture.

From How to know a person

For Murdoch, the essential immoral act is the inability to see other people correctly. Human beings, she finds, are self-centered beings, anxiety-ridden and resentful. We are constantly representing people to ourselves in self-serving ways, in ways that gratify our egos and serve our ends. We stereotype and condescend, ignore and dehumanize. And be