Anna Haynes

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In a 2015 study of more than two thousand mothers, Lucia Ciciolla, PhD, a psychologist at Oklahoma State University, found that the well-being of mothers is linked to four factors: feeling unconditionally loved, feeling comforted when distressed, authenticity in relationships, and satisfaction with friendships.

“My mother noticed the sculpture to self-hatred I was hammering away at and sent me to a clinic, where I was first given the diagnoses of “eating disorder,” “anxiety disorder,” and “depression.” Finally, I didn’t feel like a fraud. I was officially as sad as my idols and my online sisters.”

Dead Weight by Emmeline Clein

Abandoning all inhibitive and critical faculties in the face of extreme pleasure, no matter the life-shattering consequences on the other side of the pleasure, is a central tenet of mainstream porn, a trope that knows no end.

Brady Brickner-Wood • Grok and the A.I. Porn Problem

There is only the illusion of solace in beauty. If age and disability teach us anything, it is that investing in beauty will never set us free. Beauty has always been hurled as a weapon. It has always taken the form of an exclusive club; and supposed protection against violence, isolation and pain, but this is a myth. It is not true, even for those... See more

Moving Toward the Ugly: A Politic Beyond Desirability

I had been taught by my family and culture that there is nothing more tragic than a single, childless, middle-aged woman. But as someone who has now been twice-divorced and once widowed, I am amazed by how great it is to be on my own, to live alone, to travel alone, to chart my own course in life without having to run it by anyone. It’s the fucking

Elizabeth Gilbert • This is 54: Author Elizabeth Gilbert Responds to The Oldster Magazine Questionnaire

The women’s movement must realize that work is not liberation. Work in a capitalist system is exploitation and there is no pleasure, pride or creativity in being exploited. Even the “career” is an illusion as far as self-fulfillment is concerned.

Silvia Federici • Revolution at Point Zero: Housework, Reproduction, and Feminist Struggle

The sexualization of women is only appealing if it’s nonconsensual. Otherwise it’s “sluttiness,” and sluttiness is agency and agency is threatening and so, therefore, sluttiness must equal disposability.

Female 'Purity' Is Bullshit

Stories are entrusted to storytellers by the elders. But these storytellers are not meant to repeat the narrative verbatim; they are expected to understand these stories and, through them, reflect on what the community needs to hear at any given moment. This temporal gathering, both in and around a story, acknowledges the personal subjectivities... See more