Pamela J. Hobart
@amelapay
Pamela J. Hobart
How to Grow Kids Into Happy, Resilient Adults
psychologytoday.com
Primal world beliefs not directly connected to upbringing conditions. More about parental warmth!!!
In a rare 1988 interview, mythologist Joseph Campbell was asked "How would you advise somebody to tap into joy?"
In response, he gave the most mystical, mind-blowing and beautiful answer I could have ever imagined: https://t.co/pmJk3qzmVu
Ashwin Sharmax.com
In the old days, if you lost your nose they would sew your arm to your face and you had to be like this for a few weeks while it healed until they could snip it. Worth a few weeks like that to have a nose for the rest of your life, right?
The fix for most problems requires an arm sewn to face stage, but people refuse to... See more
People are not just high-agency or low-agency in a global sense, across their entire lives. Instead, people are selectively agentic.
Let’s say that life is divided up into three theaters: work, relationships with others (all kinds) and relationship to self (physical health, introspection, emotional development, all of it). I think it’s the rule, rather than the exception, that people are stuck at an earlier stage of development in at least one area. There is one theater of life where they’re not Actually Trying — where they’re approaching serious problems with the resourcefulness of a teenager, though they are now capable adults.
In my particular corner of the world, there are tons of high-achievers in work. These are ingenious people shaping the world through innovations in science, technology, and policy. But many of them haven’t applied the same ingenuity to their interior experience or relationships. These are people who could successfully launch a product in a foreign country with little instruction, but who complain that there aren’t any fun people to meet on the dating apps.
It seems like, by default, you are stuck with whatever level of resourcefulness you brought to a problem the first time you encountered it and failed to fix it.
I've found a good way to spot outlier people is to look for 'script-breaking' when you have a conversation with them.
Because so many people are parroting things they've read or heard, most conversations fall into a handful of predictable scripts. You're mostly trading soundbites.
Every once... See more
Oliver Hsux.com“By recognizing that our patients’ ways of relating are not intentional but rather implicit, habitual, and quite automatic, we can stop relating to the ‘traumatized’ parts of their personality (e.g., by assuming that they suffer from disorders of ‘all personality’) and start, instead, relating to the ‘authentic’ parts of their personality (e.g., by... See more
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