Alex Dobrenko

Sixteen years later, in 2020, Robin Sloan published a blog post called “An App Can Be a Home-Cooked Meal” which picked up on many of the same themes.

He talked about building a tiny app for his family to send short videos to one another. Only his family have access. He’s not going to turn it into a start-up. It doesn’t have any commercial or market... See more

One thing I didn’t read in your post is focusing on positive reinforcement when he does the “right” things. Both after a redirection or reprimand, and just in general any time you notice it.

Another thing that came to mind is in a lot of these instances I wonder if you’re inviting him to help to do things the “right way”? As in, he has his own... See more

Looking at other men is a somewhat novel experience for me. In my former life as a non-father, if I took any notice of another man in the same room, it was probably to appraise him physically, on the off chance that we were to become locked in some form of primitive combat. (Would I be able to beat him in a race? How easy would it be for him to... See more

So seriousness isn’t some kind of final reward, a golden watch you earn for a lifetime of operating in bad faith. It is, instead, one of those basic practices you gotta do to prevent your life from disintegrating, like getting out of bed and taking a shower and talking to people. That’s because seriousness is the great Orderer of Priorities, and... See more

Writing needn’t be a formal enterprise to have this effect. You don’t have to write well . You don’t even have to “write,” exactly — you can just talk onto the page.

I suggest writing emails to your friends. Writing with an audience in mind makes the writing better, and writing to a friend means you won’t get hung up on how you sound. You’ll become... See more

In June 1983, Alexander Grothendieck sits down to write the preface to a mathematical manuscript called Pursuing Stacks . He is concerned by what he sees as a tacit disdain for the more “feminine side” of mathematics (which is related to what I’m calling the solitary creative state) in favor of the “hammer and chisel” of the finished theorem. By... See more