Not coincidentally, this entire emotional history plays itself out in the physicality of sex. The body is the purest, most primal tool we have for communicating. As Roland Barthes wrote, “What language conceals is said through my body. My body is a stubborn child; my language is a very civilized adult.” The body is our mother tongue—our mediator with the world long before we speak our first words. From the moment we come into being, love flows from adult to child sensuously—and I dare say erotically as well.
Not coincidentally, this entire emotional history plays itself out in the physicality of sex. The body is the purest, most primal tool we have for communicating. As Roland Barthes wrote, “What language conceals is said through my body. My body is a stubborn child; my language is a very civilized adult.” The body is our mother tongue—our mediator with the world long before we speak our first words. From the moment we come into being, love flows from adult to child sensuously—and I dare say erotically as well.
We seek intimacy to protect ourselves from feeling alone; and yet creating the distance essential to eroticism means stepping back from the comfort of our partner and feeling more alone.
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
We move to tell each other what’s in our souls, to say what words can’t. We are touching each other in an attempt to listen.
Taylor Jenkins Reid • One True Loves
I look at it, certainly, inside relationships and how we reconcile these two fundamental needs that often spring from different sources and pull us in different directions. And I also think that love and desire belong, a little bit, to both of these sets of human needs, as well. So they relate, and they also conflict. And herein lies the mys
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The more alive one is to the pulse of desire, the more vibrant the mind becomes—a symphony of brilliance composed from the primal chords of passion. To be richly sexual is to be richly inventive, for sex is not merely an act but a yearning—a ceaseless curiosity to unveil what lies beneath. It is a quest not just for the union of bodies but for the ... See more
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“You’re not?” Gilbert asked. He pulled himself together and sat up straight, his hand now a mere formality on her thigh. “It’s not something that can be transmitted orally, is it?”