Saved by Alara and
I know that the people who will make you feel warm and fuzzy when you’re sad, and the people who will give you brutally honest feedback, are usually different people. Ideally you want to have relationships with both kinds, and reward them for their strengths, rather than getting mad at them for failing to do what they’re bad at.
Charismatic people have the ability to show concern for people’s deepest needs and interests. That doesn’t mean charismatic people are mushy or patronizing, but when you are around them, you sense their interest and care and leave them feeling that you are important.